INTRODUCTION the third alternative. When two individuals

INTRODUCTION

 

1.         Stephen R. Covey has one of the most
influential and flamboyant personality. He has touched souls of many through
his literature with his profound yet straight forward guidance. He has sold
more than 20 million books (in 38 languages), and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was named the #1 most
influential book of 20th century. His latest book The 3rd alternative introduces
a groundbreaking approach to life’s many problem.

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2.         Though his solutions are simple, yet he
transcends traditional solution to conflict by creating a median between
problems. His approach to the 3rd alternative solution is exemplary.
There is no my way neither your way, the solution lies in the amalgamation of
both that is our way – The 3rd
alternative. He discussed plethora of examples in his book which is a real
time simulation of problems that people go through these days. The book is
richly illustrated with comprehensive graphics for smooth understanding of
readers world-wide.

 

 

 

 

 

 

SUMMARY

 

3.         The book The 3rd Alternative was the last book of Stephen
Covey’s. The book came in the same year as of his death and this book is
perhaps more than this great man could give. Covey’s ideas are expressed very
fluently in this book which make this book more than just interesting. This is
expressed in much more beautiful way in word of Muhammad Yunus as:- “In The 3rd Alternative,
Dr. Covey inspires us to think differently about solving problems than we ever
have before. We must set aside our differences, including our boundaries,
languages, economics, politics and cultures and work hand in hand together to
create solutions which are greater than the problems we now face” – Muhammad
Yunus, Nobel Peace Prize winner 2006.

4.         Stephen
R. Covey in the book has expressed that conflicts can be resolved by a
universal solution called the third alternative. When two individuals fight, it
is always my way or his way. Everybody thinks that there are only options ‘win
or lose’, But Stephen R. Covey explains that is one more solution to the
problem which is mid-way of both. When both the parties see that the conflict
can be resolved through simple 3rd alternative, it brings harmony
among two. The author first presents the basic
problem in simple terms but shows how business and life are actually
interconnected. His approach to 3rd alternative is exemplary.

5.         Now
we have the solution but how can this be implemented in real life is a
challenge, and the author expresses the same. Thus, he provides an algorithm of
few simple steps. The author writes 3 step process:

– Paradigm 1: I See Myself

The first paradigm is about
seeing myself as a self-aware and self-sufficient human being. /25

 

 

– Paradigm 2: I See You

The second paradigm is about
seeing others as people instead of things. /33

– Paradigm 3: I Seek You Out

This paradigm is about
deliberately seeking out conflicting views instead of avoiding or defending
yourself against them. /40

– Paradigm 4: I Synergize
With You

The last paradigm is about
going for a solution that’s better than anyone has thought of before, an
amalgamation of both the approaches. /59

6.         He speaks about Oscar Ybarra, Professor of Psychology at the
University of Michigan, who found that when people starts to get concerned more
about themselves rather than others, it makes them psychologically more stable.
He starts to forget bad things about others and starts looking for good things.
This is what author conveys in paradigm 1 – I see myself and paradigm 2 – I see
you.

7.         For paradigm 3 – I Seek You Out, Stephen R. Covey writes that
when we take a step ahead and ask for share of truth from others without any fear,
it breaks our inner wall of pre-conceived notions. This in his own word is ‘radical
shift in thinking’. This book shows how expansively Dr. Covey has absorbed both
from Middle Eastern cultures, from African traditions, and from the wisdom
traditions of the Far East. He says that he belongs to a leadership group
seeking to create a better bond between west and the Islamic community. His
idea about the 3rd alternative can be applied here for maintaining
peace-full relationships.

 

 

 

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